who would like to be my child(ren)'s mother? (with some details added)

隐君子

I am sorry if the text below leads you to think that I am a man obsessed with material wealth. I am capable to love and integrate romance in my family. My students, friends and colleagues describe me as an outgoing, easy-going, forgiving, humourous and aspring man.

I am different from many men you might have seen. Many men spend much of their lives on women, but forget to spend time looking after them and giving them a good standard of living. Many men spend much of their lives on their career, but forget to spend time staying with their family. I do not fall into either of these two categories. I want to be successful in my career and in my family alike.

I read many sociology articles. I understand that women contribute more to a family than men do and women are more vulnerable to economic turbulance than men are. I also understand that a perfect family is a melting pot of money, love, romance, responsibilities, trust and communication. That's why I think that I am special and capable to start a family with a good lady, a lady who should discover my abilities to give her something that is missing in many other marriages.


I am a man who survives and struggles for his family, his parents before they pass away and his wife and child(ren) after they are brought into his life.

I am nearly 31. Sorry, I did not realise it or considered it seriously until my students asked me this question and I gave them the answer today.

I should have got married years ago as I am such a family-oriented man.

however, as i am always wanting to give my wife and my children the best i have, i did not consider the possibility seriously before.

different from many men living in nz, either younger or older than me, I have started basically from scratch. From a low-income and working parents family, I came here ladden with heavy debts, but fortunately, I paid them off despite holding a student visa in those years (which means that I could not earn more despite having such capabilities).

I am not a rich man yet, but I have sufficient money to start a business (if cnditions permit). I am a talented investor and financial controller, although I have little room to achieve my full potential. The opportunity is imminent, although it has always been remote. Somebody is born rich, while somebody rises from rags into prominence. I believe that I am the latter. I hold no doubt about it, nor do those who know me well.

My parents have always tried to rush me into a marriage and always asked me a question "when would you get married?". Never have them got my answer outright. Instead, I asked them back "if a marriage ought to persist toward the end of your life and last for decades, will it make a big difference entering it at the age of 35 or 40?"

Now when asking myself the same question, I have to say "yes, it surely will." Age holds the key to many forms of pleasure we can unlock in our lives, a healthy child, sex, a successful career, and so forth. anybody who tends to deny these facts is to deny the life formulars that have operated for thousands of years and possibly date back to the founding of the first human family on this planet.

I am an ordinary-looking guy, medium-height, knowledgeable, adventuresome but prudent. I dropped out of the school around four years ago because of financial hardships, but this deprivation does not compromise my academic competence and specialised knowledge. I have helped hundreds of students finish their bachelor or master degrees in NZ and other countries. Once I get PR(damn it), my effort to get multiple qualifications is basically unstoppable. Life to me is a journy that is full of challenges and surprises. I welcome both. A classic example is that I got my book published, although I am an obscure writer without any striking academic background. I am glad that I am a miracle creator rather than an opportunitist. I have started another book, hopefully another milestone on my path to success.

Enough about me but little about the girl that I think fits me. I don't expect to meet a girl as knowledgeable as me, but she is preferrably a keen learner. A girl without strong quest for knowledge is a homely girl that brings no fresh air in a marriage, which is doomed to become a graveyard. Nor do i expect to see a girl as intelligent as me, but at least, she is capable to communicate with me, read my mind and understand my vision. A marriage can by no means succeed if the couple does not share the same language. I am a literature lover and movie-goer. My humble breeding does not deprive me of appreciating art, a penchant that is found unique among humans only and distinguishes us from other species.

She should be a non-smoker and physically normal and healthy. I am a robust adherent of genetics. A smoker, an obesity sufferer or a girl that does not follow a healthy lifestyle is a self-destructing individual, bring nothing to the world but a baby with birth defects. I am interested in a healthy family. I am ready to expend all my energy and talent I have in exchange for it.

I put them all in English, because it is a good test of literacy and language proficiency. I want a well-educated child. marrying a well-educated mother is exactly the first step toward this objective.

Pour all your scorn right here if you take me as a geek but let me know via QQ 26160562 if you are interested in me and ready for a healthy family and a spotless marriage.

[ 本帖最后由 隐君子 于 2009-4-18 23:00 编辑 ]

隐君子

all i wrote above stemmed from an urge that arose after I read an article about "ideal age for pregnancy"

2bad

家北。。。我怎麽覺得你把女孩都涮了一遍啊

各位MM請一定相信樓主的真誠，RP一定有保證~

meiming

原帖由 2bad 于 2008-3-8 09:35 发表
家北。。。我怎麽覺得你把女孩都涮了一遍啊

各位MM請一定相信樓主的真誠，RP一定有保證~

感觉不像是单纯的捧

隐君子

原帖由 2bad 于 2008-3-8 09:35 发表
家北。。。我怎麽覺得你把女孩都涮了一遍啊

各位MM請一定相信樓主的真誠，RP一定有保證~

RP?

How is your family?

meiming

原帖由 隐君子 于 2008-3-8 10:47 发表


RP?

How is your family?

就算人家不小心拼写有误，也不至于直接问候人全家吧？

隐君子

原帖由 meiming 于 2008-3-8 13:40 发表

就算人家不小心拼写有误，也不至于直接问候人全家吧？

误会

我和她是同乡, 很久不见的朋友, 所以问候.

RP可能是对的, right person.

刘得桦

弱弱的猜一下，RP是不是人品的意思啊，游戏里经常这么用哦。

sunny128

通常我只看不发表，但今天看了LZ的帖子感觉LZ有点自信膨胀－自赋！好象是在找生育机器！还什么"ideal age for pregnancy"－借口！目的性太强。 拜托，这里是情感天空，不是生育天空。在说你还没找到情感就谈生育，未免有些操只过急了！希望LZ下次发贴能真诚一点！

隐君子

I am comfortable if my wife wants me to be a person who has income-earning capabilities.

It does not mean that she marries me because i am a money spinner.

Yes, a woman is capable to bear a child, but I i am not the one to be blamed for women's inborn ability. The creator of human beings is. If i were able to do this job, i would love to do that for my wife.

Do you know why women normally want their husbands to be financially stable, while men usually want their wives to be committed to family? Their expectations are decided by the roles they ought to play in families.

Do you know why a majority of wives are younger than their husbands, although normally women have a longer lifespan than men do? it is becaue age brings wealth, career stability and maturity to a man. There is a huge blank in a woman's career because of pregnancy. The wealth created by the husband will help maintain the family's living standard during the wife's pregnancy and maternity leave.  

I am not a guy who is gonna take his wife as a slave, maid, or babysitter. I am willing to play a big part in my child's life development. I will enjoy this, because i will be proud of being a good father.

I am a defender of women's rights. I recognise all a woman does for a family, because my mum is a perfect woman.

I will try my best to offer a compensation for all my wife will give up for the marriage.

隐君子

don't trust a man if the man does not want a marriage or baby.

Chemistry can help kick off a relationship, but committment can help sustain the relationship.

THe ring is normally the emblem of committment, but you can take off the ring easily.

You can never abandon your child easily.

I am sorry I have to make the reasons behind having a baby so explicit!

vincentakl

LZ文章写的真好！
但读完觉得人每一项都很平均很好，没啥特点。。。
如果能用30秒就抓住眼球，那这样的男人会有魅力多了！
希望LZ好运！

隐君子

Men are ordinary creatures, but women make them special.

I believe that all women agree on this .

隐君子

if men are special, women make them ordinary creatures.

as Prince Charles said on his wedding day, "I am just down to earth."

神少

老大 为啥您不用中文啊!! 英文看着好头疼啊!!

ChicagoBulls

和其他英语为第二语言的人相比较，你的英文令人敬佩，可以算是雅思9分，不过呢，你写的东西我总觉得有点“酸”，挺矛盾，对另一半年龄，体貌的单纯注重，似乎也和你对自己的描述很矛盾。

所谓己所不欲勿施于人，你既不希望别人看重你的体貌，为什么又反过来要求对方？我觉得女孩子只要健康苗条，唇红齿白，面相善良就足够了，虽然外貌都是越漂亮越好，但绝不该成为成熟理智男人的择偶标准，还是性格，气度，脑力等更重要些。

得罪，得罪。

隐君子

where did you get this message?

did you see any description of look throughout the whole text?

SLAYER

my sister should be very intersted being your children's mom

so how many children have you got yet?

隐君子

I have no child, as I am unmarried.

本拉登娘舅

哎～～雅思4.5进来联系阅读～～～

ChicagoBulls

希望你能找到，已经比坛子里不少人强多了，只是觉得你的写法是很难找到你所想得到的人的。

隐君子

原帖由 ChicagoBulls 于 2008-3-9 12:42 发表
希望你能找到，已经比坛子里不少人强多了，只是觉得你的写法是很难找到你所想得到的人的。

同意你的预测

2bad

對啦隊啦RP就是人品~

好女孩還是有的！不要小看在這裡浮游的MM~~~~~~

2bad

家裏人都不錯，托賴了^^ 就是最近小忙~~~~~

保重哦~

隐君子

忙是好事, 注意身体.

2bad

油兔啊！！！

Orchid

看了LZ写的。。。我猜LZ应该是个条件还不错的男人，只是年轻气盛。。。
自信是应该有的，但是强势逼人的话，就有点过了。。。怕你吓跑真正有能力，有涵养，有气质的好女孩子！

雁阵惊寒

"A smoker, an obesity sufferer or a girl that does not follow a healthy lifestyle is a self-destructing individual, bring nothing to the world but a baby with birth defects."

That was the only point throughout the text I found less convincing. It is ironic discriminating whilst sounding like a humanitarian in all other statements. It is ok for not fancying obese girls or smokers but being judgmental isn’t going to do you any good.

Unhealthy diet or lifestyle can be a result of knowledge deficit, which was mostly caused by inability of information access. Then again genetic, cultural, socioeconomic, environmental and financial factors all have impact on an individual to a certain extent. There are times that people switch to less healthy diet when they are experiencing some financial hardship. You might want to agree with this because you even dropped out of university due to the same reason. However, that does not make you a worthless man, does it?

On top of that, other times people may experience crisis in their lives such as the sudden death of a family member or being in an abusive relationship. A lot of people start smoking and/or drinking as a coping strategy and as a result, their lifestyles will alter significantly.

All in all my point was that people were not born equal. No one asks for illness or disability or even being born into a financially struggling family. Therefore the healthy, as well as the unhealthy, everyone deserves acknowledgement and respect for being who they are.

PS: I don’ t normally jump in like this so thanks for tickling my brain by this article.

隐君子

原帖由 Orchid 于 2008-3-10 00:51 发表
看了LZ写的。。。我猜LZ应该是个条件还不错的男人，只是年轻气盛。。。
自信是应该有的，但是强势逼人的话，就有点过了。。。怕你吓跑真正有能力，有涵养，有气质的好女孩子！

I am a humble man. That's why my boss describes me as a scholar rather than a teacher. A modern teacher should boast his background, rather than giving it a simplified account. I never pay lip service. Nor do I brag about my gift.


I am begging for love. I am in search for a girl who understands what contribute to a perfect marriage. Look, wealth and qualifications are visible belongings, but hardly can these make a concrete relationship. I don't have these belongings currently, so I am not fully confident, especially when I discern that these are what interest most, if not all, of the girls right here. I am confident if you want a responsible man who is always ready to commit his whole life to his family.

I am trying to be a good son now but also a good husband and a good father in future. Nothing can give me more pride than doing these jobs. I am born for that.

隐君子

原帖由 雁阵惊寒 于 2008-3-10 02:01 发表
"A smoker, an obesity sufferer or a girl that does not follow a healthy lifestyle is a self-destructing individual, bring nothing to the world but a baby with birth defects."

That was the onl ...

Ok,
Smoking is a luxury habit in New Zealand. I am always surprised to see that well-educated people continue this habit while knowing that smoking does harm to their children and themselves. I am not ready to discharge nicotine in my body and transfer it to my children.

People suffer obesity becaue they are addicted to eating, rather than because they have no food. Keeping yourself away from hamburgers and potato chips can always help you afford fruits and vegetables.

I do not discriminate against any person with disabilities. In fact, I am always grateful to my parents and God for I do not have disabilities, so I can do more for my family and people around me. Writing a book is a labourous job. Do you think that a man with health problems can accomplish this job?

I look after myself for my family, because health is what keeps me capable to serve as their servant.