美女满街，知音难求

隐君子

according to some psychologists, life is a struggle between what you want to do and what you ought to do.

for example, you desire a pretty woman, who happens to be your acquaintance,  but it does not necessarily mean that your desire can be materialised. you might not deserve this pretty woman, as concluded by some social rules (namely, a rich man is generally coupled with a pretty woman).
so what you desire is not accessible to you, even though it is visible.
as you are familiar with this social rule and you choose not to show your desire, year in year out, your suppressed desire has an impact on your psychological and emotional health. you might lose your esteem and become aggressive or reclusive.

what a shrink can do in this circumstance is in fact limited, because we live in a real world, in which many social rules hold true. disclosing your desire for this pretty woman either to yourself or in front of other people does not offer the solution, because to some people, it can be quite humiliating.

therefore, psychology is about analysis of yourself and adjustment of yourself. you learn to adapt to the world more aptly.

eXKalibur

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eXKalibur

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隐君子

there are various forms of discrimination, based on age, sex, social status, wealth and so forth, in the world.

for example, a girl who is sexually attractive is logically more valuable and desirable as an ideal spouse for many men.

some people have tried to adapt to it and accept it, while others have tried to combat it.

a less attractive girl might use her knowledge, education and personality to compensate her physical disadvantage.

or simply she might give up her fantasy about marrying an outstanding man.

eXKalibur

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佦尐綠

lz　要是你很理性，那可以，不然你会不小心产生同情。
和女人交往最重要的就是，可以放她在身上，不能放她心上（与性无关）

去网上找把，　有很多受伤的mm。。　网恋后遗症。　
既然你只是单纯和人家交谈

nbstar0710

就一件事儿....LZ男的女的？？？

假发

学术研讨贴。。。。

鉴定完毕。。。

zhxftj

我的读的是临床心理学，可以帮你解开心结的那种，我不喜欢解梦。梦境是美好的为什么要去揭开他的深层含义呢！希望每个人把梦当作是一种美好的回忆，更像是你期待的一种生活吧！
jayvic2010 发表于 2010-1-8 00:40

每次都很认真的去做梦，醒来后，发现，梦很荒谬，但过几天还是去很认真的做梦

zhxftj

真的吃的很饱，今天

zhxftj

晕，看完帖后，忘记了开始要说的话了

为题目来得
想说一句，“满街美女”？？我没看见呀

我平时也不出门呀

specialV

晕，看完帖后，忘记了开始要说的话了

为题目来得
想说一句，“满街美女”？？我没看见呀

我平时也不出门呀
zhxftj 发表于 2010-1-10 19:50

也太自戀了吧？

頂樓主，其實能找個能說話的人挺難的，尤其是都身在海外，仍記得以前的另一半就是相互傾述的對象，紅顏知己，莫過于此吧？

财东

若干年前，我读的是犯罪心理学。。。。。。。。

定时鸡弹

寂寞到一定程度了。。。。

游缘聚聚

ahmi186

;

小人儿雪糕

我。。举手。。志同道合

bigmouse

gooooood luck to u

mars.ma

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milier711

我更喜欢荣格的理论,觉得更全面一些。。。

如梦如寄

这个贴子我很喜欢，主贴和跟贴都好
楼主加油！

Teddy_熊熊

加我吧~~~~~~~~~~~~